GPS Tracking For Cars

I have been married 5 yrs. I have twins that are 4. The last 2 years have been pure hell. My husband put a GPS tracking system in my car, he set surveillance up in my home. (I own the house and car) I have been a very attentive mother and wife. He has never hugged me or kissed me . He ignores unless he needs something. I have to do everything for myself . If I get sick or break a bone , I have to take myself to the hospital. He has zero empathy. Well after 8 years of this and it is just getting worst. I have been fighting back verbally. He said he has me on tape and it will show that I am a unfit mother. I am so scared because when i have fought back I have slammed doors or thrown tv clickers not at him . Now I am scared the courts will think I am abusive.and I am not. What should I do? Can he use surveillance that he set up in my home. I have never hit or yelled at my kids. The times we fought my kids were a sleep. Not in the room. My anger is only at my husband, my kids are my world and i want to make it the best for them. I feel like I am at half of my capabilities because of my anger and not trusting my husband. Oh besides the surveillance. he behind my back. moved monies and turned off credit cards. Has a PO box and storage locker. He keeps non of his this here. also he has full access to my cell phone. I can not cancel it because he is the account owner and If I get a new cell . I can not take my old number. what are my rites. HELP

Best Answer: Sam,
Wow What happened?

Ok do this if you have your own income, set up your own bank account and put all of your future income into that.
Get a new cell phone in your name only, put an out going message on the old phone referring callers to your new number.

Disable the cameras, not so hard to do, they are connected to something there are wires and wire cutters are easy to come by.

to be honest you have a stronger case for abuse then he does, he essentially has caged you up, and as anyone can tell you you take a free spirit and cage it up, it will become very hostile and then it will eventually die.

Any astute lawyer should have no trouble getting the video images ruled inadmissible as they violate your right to privacy.

But if you still have concerns talk to a lawyer they have ask the expert and you can check legal aid or contact your local university legal department free legal advise is available.

The final piece advise I give you Sam is get yourself out of that environment, Normally I don’t advocate divorce but that assumes a marriage actually existed in the first place, what you describe is not a marriage but an acquisition of live stock.

Take whatever assets you can get into your car, and head down the road, after you clip the wires to the cameras,
file for divorce and tell your lawyer about all the assets he has locked up he will be forced to disclose what they are for the settlement, you will have little trouble showing him to be the unstable person he is.
No body wires up there house like that unless they are disturbed.

Your first prioity is your safety and right now Sam you are not safe, get yourself safe then get your kids unless you feel he poses a threat to the safety of your kids then that is a different story.

oh before you cut the wires to the cameras make a statement to the affect that you do not consent to any recordings by any means in your home.
also find a way to record that that you have control over as you can be sure your husband will delete and such statements at least you will have your own record.
By the way what you describe is nothing more then the out burst of a very frustrated person, the fact that you haven’t lashed out at anyone is to your credit, this doesn’t qulify for unfir mother status. however, GPS tracking and surveilance ofthe occupants in your home may speak to unfit parent and spouse and human.

I wish you luck my friend and please be safe, but get out of that environment as quickly as you can.

best wishes.

• Lady.. that’s unnatural. You need to get out of that relationship. He’s making you paranoid by insinuating that you may hurt the kids. Be careful, though.
• CALL THE POLICE AND FILE REPORTS ON HIM EVERY CHANCE YOU GET THIS WILL BACK UP YOUR STORY IF YOU WASNT MEAN TO THE KIDS DONT WORRY AT ALL HE IS A LIAR YOU HAVE RIGHTS REMEMBER THE CAMERA SAW HIME TOO HE WONT SHOW THEM GET OUT ASAP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!…
• then leave, use your common sense, file for divorce come on do you really need yahoo answers to tell you what to do?? and honestly it very hard to prove a mother unfit and the courts almost always side with the mother.
• get out of the marriage right now. take your kids and go to a friend or family members. You are not in a good situation and neither are you children.
• Wow. It is definitely time to leave. Tape him then explain the truth in court and have incriminating evidence on him too. Get a divorce and come up with a plan!
  Good Luck!
• you have to get out while you can. it is no longer safe for you or your children.
• Ok, first I am sorry if I hurt your feeling is just that I get sooooooooooooooo mad that there are women like you that can stand so much! No offens but , i have to say u are really weak to stand that. My mother in law was in the same exactly situation, not kidding, but she was a strong women and did not put down with that ****. She actually also had twin boys which is my future husband and his brother who were raise so wonderfully and greatly , they are loving and caring men, because their mom did no allow any man insult her or abuse her infrot of them, I they just learn that women cant be treated bad. she marry again with their step dad who is a great man and my fiance call him Dad because since they were 4 he took care of them!!! See exactly the same story!!! How funny is the world right??? but before she met the step dad for her kids she had some problems like that and I admire her because she said bye to the man who treated her bad and left with two kids alone and worked really hard for them until she met the new man! So when I heard situations like yours is not to be mean but I can just laugh!! If you were a stronger women u will just get away from that, you are getting abuse because u let him. Run away! Go somewhere for help! U are in America!!! not in a third world country were sometimes is harder for women to get help!
  If u are in that situation is because u let ur self get abuse.
  And if u let my comments get to you, then I am so sorry for u because, guess what??? people (not everyone) but people in general are mean , and if you dont have a strong self steam and do not avoid let thing get to u, then I dont know what the future is going to held for u and ur kinds?!
  U have to be strong for u and the most important UR KIDS!!!
  U better stop crying and feel sorry about yourself and STOP asking for help in lame and trivial places like here!!!
  And go to the law, police , women home abuse help something!!!
  Do something!!! I cant feel bad for u. I am sorry!!
  And then u say that u spend all ur life being teased by people like me!! No wonder why because they saw u as a great target!
  U have to be stronger!
• better ask somebody whom you could confide to help you find a good lawyer… seek legal counsel.. thats the best thing…
• What you need to think of first is your safety and your kids. First off get a restraining order then find a safe house and file for divorce. The police will be able to help you with this matter. They deal with this kind of thing all the time, Courts are very unlikely to take children away from the mother unless there is sufficient evidence to prove shes unfit. He just knows what to use to push your buttons.
• Talk to a lawyer NOW get him to pay your lawyer child support,maintenance,I suggest you get some tapes of your own,and get out.and control yourself till then-IF YOU DO NOT MOVE ON THIS YOU WILL BE SCREWED GET A CREDIT CARD NOW THAT HE DOSE NOT KNOW ABOUT AND USE IT TO GIVE LAWYER FIRST PAYMENT>STOP TALKING TO THE JERKS HERE AND MOVE YOUR A.S.S. As long as you are married you can run up your new credit card till you are legally separated
• I actually knew a woman that had a husband just like yours. Her husband was a influential business man and was friends with judges and lawyers. So what she did was go to another town and asked an attorney there if he knew her husband? The attorney said, “Nope. Never heard of the man.” She hired him, got a divorce and they wiped her ex husband out. He was court ordered to pay her $100,000 in 30 days or the state they lived in would take his business. He paid her and ended up losing his buisness. She got all his valuables, rental properties and both of his cars. He was left a poor broken little man. Serves him right for the way he treated his wife.
  You need to hire an attorney like that.
• You need to go to a safe place and gain protection from this man. The situation is unhealthy and bizarre. Control freaks always try to turn things around and make you look bad! Quite often it is a cycle (i.e seen his father behave this way) which needs to be broken, but only if he chooses to, but that’s up to him and not your problem right now as he may never change and always blame others. Please ring you local Womens Refuge-it should be in the front of your phone book or Police to find out how you can get safe housing for you and your little ones along with counselling. Take great care-make sure you have a band of trusted family and friends to help you through. Don’t keep this a secret, seek help asap. Take care and good luck.
• You have two choices: stay or leave.
  It’s that simple. You cannot change another person and it appears that he is quite unwilling to change for you.
  Then the answer is simple – leave the marriage.
  Get an attorney now and seek his/her counsel for how to proceed. You will have to gather all your financial data and perhaps more. Everyday that you stay is your choice to stay. Do not put this on your husband. It’s all your choice.
• Using surveillance on a spouse? Throwing remotes and slamming doors would show anger but you have a right to be angry. Your children have a right to grow up in a happy home. This guy sounds like a control freak – see if your town has a women’s shelter – call them and ask for advice. I’ll bet they’ll tell you to run! Try to get the location of the storage locker and the p.o. box number before you leave.
• You are in an emotionally abusive relationship. Getting out will require getting a plan, and you seem like you feel like too much of a victim to get a plan.

  There are a number of things you can and should do.

  Contact your local women’s shelter. If you do not know where it is or how to contact them, ask your doctor. TELL your doctor you are being emotionally abused. Hook up with a support group from the shelter and an abuse counselor. They will help you devise a plan – there are several things you can do when your husband is in the house so you don’t feel trapped.

  You should start taking small amounts of money from the family money and hiding it – some women have a trusted family member hold it. Build up enough so you can live without his help for 3 months – by that time he would be required to pay child support.

  The fact that he is moving money and is controlling your access to money is troubling – you need to act quickly.

  Go to your library and get the book “The Verbally Abusive Relationship” by Patricia Evans. Read it there if you have to or check it out and leave it with a trusted friend and read it at her house. It will change your life. I promise.